There were two steps that I took to get over my social anxiety: I got cold chills from any large gathering until one day I went to a writer's group and those people I could talk to because they at least had a similar mindset. It's a lot easier to speak to similar people who can relate to the same things as you. Keep in mind 25% of them are dicks who will not respond well, but the other 75% will smile and talk back.įind a group that is into something you are interested in, and show up for a meeting or function. Something that if you were standing on your feet all day it would be nice to hear. Go out at least once a day and make some small purchases at a grocery store or whatever, go to a library if you're broke, and make a point of saying something nice to the clerk, something about how busy the store is or isn't, what's the weather going to do later in the day, or how the color they are wearing looks good on them. good luck.Īt home practice talking out loud to a pet, or the guy who reads the news on the radio, or make smart remarks to the television or videos on the internet.
If you're not normally social, it can take practice to get comfortable.
You might even want to think about some questions or topics to talk about before you go out. if you run into someone who 'doesn't take the bait' of your open ended question, try again with another question and if that doesn't work either, move on! when you are a good listener, just prompting them to talk more with comments or questions, people will think you are a great conversationalist! it's more about moving the conversation along rather than making witty or smart comments. try to let the other person do the majority of the talking. then, after the person has answered your question, make a short comment on the same topic (like your own opinion but never being snarky or judgmental when you're talking with people you're not close to) and ask them another question, still on the same topic if possible. do not ask questions that can be answered with one word answers. rule #2 ask open ended questions to people. you have to put yourself into social situations, even though you may avoid them.
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